Dealing with Separation & Divorce
I understand that the process of ending a partnership can be incredibly overwhelming, and I am here to support you every step of the way. I offer a safe, confidential space to take control of the fear, anger, sadness and devastating sense of loss, helping you to gain the clarity you need to move forward and to design your future.
It doesn't matter if you have been married for months, years or decades; the impact of a separation and possible subsequent divorce can feel completely overwhelming.
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When a relationship falters, and we agree upon a separation, it opens up a chasm of confusion. There are no clear rules and it's unlikely that we have found ourselves in this situation before, so it's a disorientating time.
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Separation presents us with significant emotional turmoil as we try to unravel exactly what happened, and, ask ourselves "how did we even get here?" During the separation, we're forced to face our fear of the impending end of our relationship, along with navigating hurt, anger, indignation, sadness, rejection, and the worry about what comes next.
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We may also be trying to work out what we even want for the next chapter in our life. It's a huge decision, and one partner may see the relationship very differently to the other. So often, we refuse to "lose" by giving up on a relationship we've put so much of our time, energy and life into, and many of us want to fight to keep the relationship alive.
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If we're unable to resolve the issues within the marriage, often the inevitable next step is divorce, which brings with it a host of practical, financial and logistical challenges.... alongside the very real devastation of the loss of the future we thought we had.
Getting divorced can feel a little bit like trying to do a full time accounting job, whilst parenting, watching a horror film, on a rollercoaster. And very often, in order to function as parents, friends and full time employees, we're also required to keep our screams internal.
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Alongside this, we have to maintain some form of communication with the very person who may have put us in this predicament; and this can regularly present further challenges to our emotional wellbeing.
Divorce is one of life's most stressful events; second only to the death of a spouse, and it's a time when we truly need support from those around us, and professional guidance.
I support my clients throughout the entire process of separation and divorce; providing them with coaching and guidance to enable them to tackle each challenge with a sense of calm, clear-headedness and control.
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I also help clients to prepare for meetings with solicitors and mediators, to develop effective channels of communication with their ex partner, and to support them should they need to attend court or other legal proceedings.
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Through empathetic listening, and constructive coaching I'm there to guide my clients through each step of the divorce process, with a clear targeted focus on the wonderful future they want, and deserve!
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