Preparing for a Break Up
Breaking up is never easy, but it can be the right decision if the relationship isn’t working. At The Grayston Clinic, I help you to evaluate your situation so that you can make informed decisions about your relationship. I then guide you through each step of the way; from breaking the news to making the break, and then onwards to a happier and more content future.
Sometimes we find ourselves at a crossroads in our relationship.
As time moves on, we change, and the people around us change too. We're no longer the person we once were, and when our changes no longer align with our partner's changes, a relationship can start to feel like perhaps it has run its course.
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When we are considering ending a relationship, we face a lot of fears, doubts and insecurity. We worry about the reaction from our partner; we don't want to cause them any pain, and this desire is often what paralyses us from moving forward or making any constructive changes.
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We worry about the reaction from friends and family; many of us don't like the idea of being negatively perceived, and fear that bringing a relationship to an end will result in a huge backlash.
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And most of all, we worry about how our children will handle this; as if not dealt with smoothly, it could be the most significant trauma in their lives to date. The responsibility of this can feel overwhelming, and thus many of us stay tied to a relationship that makes us deeply unhappy, due to fear of what could be.
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I help my clients to evaluate their present situation; where are they now, and where do they want to be? I encourage them to explore all of the options available to them, and help them to reach a decision with which they are most comfortable.
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If they decide to work at the relationship, we make a plan to look at all of the opportunities to create improvements, for both them, and their partner. In some cases, they decide to have a Facilitated Conversation.
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If they decide that they are ready to make the break, I help them to plan how to break the news in the kindest, most responsible and least harmful way to their partner, their children and those around them, and help pave the way for a smoother and less confrontational relationship with their ex - who is someone they often need to continue to co-parent with.
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I help them to put a plan in place to work with the other parent of their children to create a harmonious scenario that is the least disruptive outcome for their children's lives.
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I also support my clients in helping to address a lot of the emotional challenges that instigating a break up presents. Often the person that initiates a break up is left to deal with the aftermath alone, as they aren't perceived to be the injured party, where in reality they still need to manage their feelings of loss, pangs of regret, loneliness and fear of the unknown. I help them to adjust their mindset to their new reality, and together we build a plan to enable them to take the next steps towards a new future in a way that supports the wellbeing of all involved.
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If you would like to discuss your relationship dilemma, and explore whether or not you might be ready to end a partnership, then book a FREE discovery call with me to help you to decide if I'm the right coach for you.
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