I Am Having An Affair
I help individuals navigate the complicated and confusing feelings associated with having an affair. I offer specialised coaching to help you sort through your emotions and overcome the challenges that come with loving two different people, by providing a safe, non judgemental space to share your thoughts and feelings, so you can get the support and guidance needed to navigate your situation effectively.
Having an affair can be thrilling and liberating, but it can also be world destroying.
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The statistics vary, but on average anywhere between 20% and 45% of people in a monogamous relationship have admitted to infidelity.
Infidelity can be anything from a kiss, to a 'one night stand', to a full on love affair. Some of us have purely emotional affairs; we don't 'physically' cheat but engage in romantic or sexual relationships through messaging and phone calls.
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Others fall for another completely. Sometimes we fall in love. Often we just fall in lust. But falling for someone else is where the real complications begin...
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We know the risks. We know the potential losses if we are discovered. We know the harm we will cause to ourselves, our partner, our lover, our children, our finances and our wider families.
So, why do we deliberately choose to endanger our relationship by falling for someone else?
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In most cases, we didn't even mean to start an affair, and usually, we have no real intention of actually leaving our marriage.
Sometimes, it's the new partner creating the opportunities. In other cases, it's our loneliness, our boredom, and our need for love, sex or simply validation that propels us into an extra-marital relationship.
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Being romantically or sexually involved with someone outside of our relationship causes serious emotional turmoil - and that's even before anyone else has found out. What may have begun as just a bit of fun can take a darker and more complicated turn as our second partner's needs and feelings also demand consideration, and the pressure can build.
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It's confusing, isolating and ultimately agonising, and very often there is no one in whom we can confide.
It's also incredibly difficult maintaining two relationships; telling lies, concealing our movements, and having the constant debate between our heads, hearts and loins as to which direction to take. This can really take its toll on our mental, emotional, financial and physical wellbeing - and it will start to show.
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I help individuals who are trying to balance their own needs and wants, with those of the people around them.
I offer a safe and confidential and completely non-judgemental space to unravel the dilemma they are facing, and help them to explore what is driving them to put themselves, and many others, in harm's way.
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If you would like the opportunity to work through your options, and to plan your next steps forward, then book a free and totally confidential discovery call with me.
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